Don’t Compare Yourself with Others!

Don’t Compare Yourself with Others!

I recently read an inspiring story about a man who during his childhood was an attendant at a public toilet at Bantama, a suburb of Kumasi in Ghana. This man by the assistance God brought to him in diverse ways was able to complete his basic education, secondary education, obtain a bachelor’s degree from the University in Geomatic Engineering and obtained a double   Masters of Science Degree from two different universities. He subsequently obtained a PhD and at the age of 38, he is already a professor and Dean at the University of Mines and Technology, Tarkwa (Ghana).

As I reflected on his story I was happy for him and awed at what God had wrought. Being a relatively young academician myself, my thoughts turned to myself and I started to compare my journey with his, to benchmark my progress with his and to wonder if I could arrive at the same destination in the record time in which he has. Thankfully, I immediately reprimanded myself.

I remembered that everything that had happened in my life was equally needful and meaningful for the destination God had for me. Nothing had delayed and everything was on course. What is more, God is working out His purposes in my life, to bring me to an expected end (Jeremiah 29:11).

It’s easy to compare ourselves with others and think we are behind in one regard or another. (If the delay has not been caused by your own laziness, you need not worry).  Reprimand yourself when you are tempted to compare yourself with others.  God created us for different purposes and has different destinations in mind for each one of us. What’s more, the events we experience on life’s journey can be used to relate with others and encourage them that God is going to bring them through as well.

When upon life’s billows you are tempted tossed

When you are discouraged, thinking all is lost

Count your many blessings, money cannot buy

And it will surprise you what the Lord has done.

Johnson Oatman Jr.

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Comments (19)

  • Isaac Kwofie Reply

    They comparing themselves with another be not wise…

    June 3, 2020 at 6:36 am
    • Abrefi Reply

      I’m inspired thanks Aunt

      June 3, 2020 at 3:28 pm
      • Sue Afutu Reply

        You are welcome Abrefi.

        June 5, 2020 at 7:11 am
  • Michael Voice Seshie Reply

    Another good message. Yes we can’t compare our selves with others. Comparing to the scripture Jeremiah 29:11. Romans 8:28 also given us the good way to accept conditions in our life, they that loves him the Lord. Bless you

    June 3, 2020 at 7:15 am
    • Gift Reply

      I have been on this journey just last month where God reminded me to not focus on others journey but my own. The key scripture was Heb 12:1-2. Sue you are a vessel used daily to bless and inspire us. Love u always sis.

      June 3, 2020 at 11:44 am
      • Sue Afutu Reply

        Amen and God bless you too sis; love you too.

        June 3, 2020 at 1:17 pm
  • David Kumador Reply

    Thanks Sue for this encouraging piece.

    I will add that, instead of comparing ourselves to others, we can decide, rather, to seek inspiration from them and learn from their experiences.

    Comparing can sometimes lead to envy, jealousy and, even to, covetousness. But when we try to find out how they made it in life, we will be amazed by the opportunities we can uncover in our own lives .

    For example, the bible does not tell us to compare ourselves to Jesus; but, to look up to him and learn from what he did; with the hope that we may be encouraged in our walk with God (Hebrews 12:2).

    June 3, 2020 at 8:13 am
    • Sue Afutu Reply

      You are welcome David and thanks for your comments.

      June 3, 2020 at 1:16 pm
  • Adwoa Nyarkoa Reply

    Thank you for the wonderful message

    June 3, 2020 at 8:47 am
  • Wisdom Willittee Dogbey Reply

    Frankly speaking, it’s unhealthy to do so.

    God bless you!

    June 3, 2020 at 11:09 am
  • Gift Reply

    I have been on this journey just last month where God reminded me to not focus on others journeys but my own. The key scripture was Heb 12:1-2. Sue you are a vessel used daily to bless and inspire us. Love u always sis.

    June 3, 2020 at 11:45 am
  • Maa U Reply

    Lord thanks for who I am now, I trust you have the best for me.

    Thanks Aunty Suzzy

    June 3, 2020 at 7:44 pm
  • Rachel Reply

    Hi Sue. Thanks for this. I am not at all for comparing myself with others. There are however times when you reflect on life and realise you HAVE BEEN lazy and could learn a thing or two from how a neighbour has managed to succeed despite their odds…‍♀️…can they not birth admiration and drive to press on?

    June 4, 2020 at 9:47 am
    • Sue Afutu Reply

      Hi Rachel, thanks a lot for your response. I totally agree with you about learning from others rather than just comparing yourself to them or worse being jealous or envious.

      June 5, 2020 at 7:09 am
  • Sena Reply

    Great piece. Thanks dear

    June 6, 2020 at 8:00 pm
    • Sue Afutu Reply

      You are welcome and thank you for reading.

      June 7, 2020 at 5:39 pm
    • Sue Afutu Reply

      You are welcome and thanks for reading.

      June 9, 2020 at 7:32 am
  • Alexander Adadevoh Reply

    Loved it.

    April 26, 2022 at 6:23 pm
    • Sue Afutu Reply

      Thanks Alex, I am glad that you found it helpful.

      May 7, 2022 at 8:55 am

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