“For we all stumble in many things. If anyone does not stumble in word, he is a perfect man, able to bridle the whole body”. James 3:2

According to health experts, your tongue says a lot about your health. A bright red tongue according to some experts indicates a lack of certain vitamins and red and white spots on your tongue point to problems with taste buds. Again some experts believe the heart is connected to the tongue and can tell its condition by looking at the tongue. It is no wonder that Jesus said  “Out of the abundance of the heart the mouth speaks” (Matthew 12:34).

We are what we speak. What we say is a culmination of the thoughts and information we have fed ourselves with. The Bible says as a man thinks so is he (Proverbs 3:7). We are also defiled by negative and vile thoughts that proceed from our hearts ( Matthew 15:18 – 20).

We need to control our tongues as with a bridle to maintain healthy relationships. How do we do this?

Speak to the king and queen inside people. No matter who they are or how they have offended you, you must speak to the king and queen in people. It does not make you any less of a person but rather is a signal of strength. The Bible says a gentle answer turns away wrath (Proverbs 15:1). This means that we must speak gently with the people in our lives. Sometimes the information we may want to convey to the person is lost in the manner in which we speak. Thus most conflicts, be it in marriage or other relationships, centre on mannerism and tone used and not the message. There may be situations that call for silence, calmness, or assertiveness; we must pay attention to those situations and wisely convey the message in love.

Pure thoughts. My father used to say watch your thoughts, they become your words, watch your words they become your actions and watch your actions they become your character. A simple wrong thought sown can affect not just your words but your character. It is therefore important to fill our minds with the Word of God. Every thought must be brought to the obedience of Christ in our lives.

Honestly, we all have our triggers—even the most melancholic or phlegmatic of us. Thus by our human strength, we may not be able to control our tongue under extreme pressure. We discipline our tongue when we surrender it to God. Whenever someone does anything to irritate us, we must submit it to God in prayer and then voice our concerns after we have prayed.

Prayer: Lord, I surrender my tongue to you. Give me wisdom concerning what I should and should not say and under what circumstances to say them in Jesus’ mighty name. Amen

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  • Nhyira Reply

    Lord, teach us to bridle our tongue. Great piece!

    May 21, 2022 at 11:11 am
  • Sue Afutu Reply

    Thanks for sharing your insights on how we can bridle the tongue. I have been very blessed Joy. God richly bless you.

    May 21, 2022 at 2:32 pm

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